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		<title>How To Build Community&#8230;Beyond Social Media</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Nov 2009 14:00:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Daniel Berman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Where is social media heading? With the explosion of facebook, twitter, friendfeed, foursquare, and myspace plus hundreds of others it begs the question of "What for?" There is a basic human desire to connect and communicate, and there is a place for mapping the social graph of our relationships in real life with ever more precision but there must be an ultimate end point.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://danielcberman.com/cms/wp-content/uploads/40727794_d95dc73ecb_b.jpg"><img src="http://danielcberman.com/cms/wp-content/uploads/40727794_d95dc73ecb_b-150x150.jpg" alt="" title="40727794_d95dc73ecb_b" width="150" height="150" class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-1076" /></a>Where is social media <a href="http://www.briansolis.com/2009/10/the-future-of-the-social-web/">heading</a>? With the explosion of facebook, twitter, friendfeed, foursquare, and myspace plus hundreds of others it begs the question of &#8220;<a href="http://thenextweb.com/2009/11/02/a-look-at-a-future-of-the-social-web/">What for</a>?&#8221; There is a basic human desire to <a href="http://danielcberman.com/10/social-media-historical-background-communication/">connect and communicate</a>, and there is a place for mapping the social graph of our relationships in real life with ever more precision but there must be an ultimate end point. Without a goal, or a purpose a venture simply becomes hysteria and hype. Now many people have used hysteria and hype for their own purposes, but they usually go down in history as notable characters that none of us wish to grow up to be like.</p>
<p>May I suggest that many of us simply want to be valued by as many people as possible, and furthermore know why&#8230;?</p>
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<p>Historically speaking time, distance, and ease of transportation have limited the number and type of people we relate too. Those boundaries are dropping fast. Crossing cultures, timezones, and distances are as easy as walking up to your computer. With tangible limitations gone, we find ourselves bumping up against the intangible ones. Religion becomes a common grouping point, interests also, there are also perceptions and feelings about everything from the minutia of daily existence to political parties and the presence of aliens. Some have suggested that social media is ultimately a narcissistic enterprise, &#8220;what is in it for me&#8221; but I would suggest that bigger question is how do I fit in with the greater whole. Who do I respect, why do I respect them, and what must I do to fit into the crowd. There is definitely an element of personal responsibility but it comes within an element of responsibility to the ever evolving community.</p>
<p>How to engage in the midst of this chaos?<br />
     &#8211; Provide a call to action and a narrative played out continuously which conveys the value of being apart of that narrative.</p>
<p>     &#8211; Listen to the community, as you are ultimately their servant. Do you genuinely care? Yes you maybe a businessman or a leader, and yes you have to make decisions based on the best interests of your organization but carefully consider what guides you in those decisions. That decision framework is more obvious than you know. If you have an agenda it will show.</p>
<p>     &#8211; Provide a vision for a better future and provide results. Make sure you continually revise your strategic planning to ensure those results keep happening.</p>
<p>     &#8211; Communicate the three points above!</p>
<p>The community is ultimately platform agnostic. It is enabled and empowered by certain online platforms, but ultimately will continue to surge forward relentlessly regardless. Facebook, twitter, and rest can rise and fall on a dime &#8211; what will you do maintain contact with those important to you?</p>
<p>Photo Courtesy of <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/niallkennedy/">niallkennedy</a></p>
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		<title>Social Media&#8217;s Historical Background in Communication</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 18 Oct 2009 16:03:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Daniel Berman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Social Media]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Many have wondered precisely what to make of social media. Is it simply a fad of the youngsters to be brushed as youthful banter? The stats and motivations behind it would seem to suggest otherwise. Can it be moralized, into something right or wrong? I would suggest that social media is simply an online reflection [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://danielcberman.com/cms/wp-content/uploads/233621595_adf37f470e_b.jpg"><img src="http://danielcberman.com/cms/wp-content/uploads/233621595_adf37f470e_b-150x150.jpg" alt="" title="233621595_adf37f470e_b" width="150" height="150" class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-1083" /></a>Many have wondered precisely what to make of social media. Is it simply a fad of the youngsters to be brushed as youthful banter? The <a href="http://danielcberman.com/2009/09/21st-century-social-media/">stats</a> and motivations behind it would seem to suggest otherwise. Can it be moralized, into something right or wrong? I would suggest that social media is simply an online reflection of an offline desire to communicate. Any sense of morality must come from the motivations of the person(s) involved and their use of such tools. Can it be corralled and controlled? The answer is that at its roots, large groups of people are only one step away from anarchy. Civil wars and riots will generally tell you this. Thus it becomes critical to understand the values and motivations of the crowd in order to influence. But beware; you may influence the crowd and crowd influences you. <span id="more-562"></span></p>
<p><strong>Context:</strong> Human beings from time immemorial, have attempted to understand the framework of life in which they lived. The use and interaction with astrology, philosophy, and religion bear this out through historical record and longstanding popularity. Astrology has attempted to use the observation of the stars in an attempt to understand the controlling forces of nature and human events. We see the observation and derivation of logic in an attempt to understand the motivations and actions of ourselves through the discipline of philosophy.  Throughout world religions, we see mankind recognizing that some sense of an other force or being out there, and that perhaps it just might be more powerful than humanity individually and collectively itself.</p>
<p>The virtual reality created by interaction over the internet is no different. As we interact with our world through the use of online media, we still attempt to understand what, why, when and how everything is happening around us. We hope that we can control it, lacking that we hope to understand it, failing that we hope to defend ourselves from real or perceived threats bourne out in the virtual world which are reflected from the real world.<br />
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Connection:</strong>Mankind has always sought connection and relationship; with the divine, his fellow human being, and with nature to some extent or another. Social media offers a means to graph the relationships and interactions which are associated with a mere moments consideration in the real world now become friendships and connections which can be graphed and stored with less and less effort. The issue comes that with greater ease in building relationships, the quality of the relationships can and often grow much more shallow.</p>
<p>The innate need and drive for relationship still remains though; and the desire for authenticity and honesty and utter distaste for hypocrisy continue to grow. With the noise of conversation growing ever louder, we fear will be lost and thus we seek to build as many connections and cross-connections with people we know to provide a framework of meaning, and worth. Without relationship, comes not only lack of meaning but even insult if deliberately rejected.</p>
<p><strong>Communication:</strong> Mankind has always appreciated face to face personal interaction. It does not matter the time, place, culture, or point in the historical time. Mankind desires relationship. The development of communication technology has posed an interesting conundrum, potential dehumanization of the communication process. The reality though is that it also allows the desire to communicate to cross distances and boundaries never before anticipated or conceived. Any means of communication with allows for facial movement, voice inflections, and raw data to be transported as close to instantaneously will continue to be developed. In essence our ability to touch others will continue to be extended, how we choose to use that touch is a question that everyone must ponder.</p>
<p>How does one engage the social media movement? Go back to who you are, rather than who you want everyone else to think you are. Its a very natural human inclination to hide behind a mask, but the crowd has discovered a means to rip it off. As an organization or business, tell your story and show how you actually desire to contribute to the greater good. Simply broadcasting a message is not enough, show with actions that you mean what you say. Once you decide to engage as either a business or an individual remember context, connection, and communication. Place focused thought and effort into providing context for those through around you, reach out out to those you know or desire to know, and then communicate with them on a regular basis. Social media can appear to be all about you, but in order to use if effectively one must remember its really all about <a href="http://danielcberman.com/?p=562">them</a>.</p>
<p>Photo Courtesy of <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/wili/">wili_hybrid</a></p>
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		<title>Websites and Relationships: Interconnecting Humanity</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Sep 2009 02:36:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Daniel Berman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Days as of late have been full with building new friendships, launching a website or two (This one is still a work in progress) and learning about the dynamics of relationships between Christians. Despite the Biblical injunction to love one another as Christ loved the Church its disconcerting to come across one Christian suggesting that [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Days as of late have been full with building new friendships, launching a <a href="http://danielcberman.com">website</a> or <a href="http://www.sonshinellc.com">two</a> (This one is still a work in progress) and learning about the dynamics of relationships between Christians. Despite the Biblical injunction to love one another as Christ loved the Church its disconcerting to come across one Christian suggesting that He has zero respect for a fellow believer, because of a lack of committal to a certain project or charitable outreach.<span id="more-262"></span></p>
<p><a href="http://global-christian.net">Global Christian</a> is an attempt to show that we as Christians have more in common that denominations and branches of Christianity would ordinarily suggest.  It does not seem to matter if we live in the 21st century or the first century controversy seems to break out,</p>
<blockquote><p>Some men came down from Judea to Antioch and were teaching the brothers: &#8220;Unless you are circumcised, according to the custom taught by Moses, you cannot be saved.&#8221; 2This brought Paul and Barnabas into sharp dispute and debate with them. Acts 15:1-2a NIV</p></blockquote>
<p>due to our own humanity and sinful nature. The question, is what do we allow sever relationships and what tests will we endure and triumph through knowing that it will build character and personality.</p>
<blockquote><p>they gathered the church together and delivered the letter. The people read it and were glad for its encouraging message. Judas and Silas, who themselves were prophets, said much to encourage and strengthen the brothers. Acts 15:30-32 NIV</p></blockquote>
<p>Sometimes relationships are impossible to reconcile, but at the same time make sure its over something that matters. This life is preparation for eternity. Do you really want to spend eternity with that brother you maligned down here on earth?</p>
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		<title>Betraying Trust With Social Networks</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Aug 2009 02:59:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Daniel Berman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I recently received an email from a worker in a creative access country, letting me know that she had unfriended me on facebook because of a burst of sensitive information that I had posted on my facebook profile. Now this sensitive information, was not even close to compromising in a North American ministry sense. It [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img src="http://danielcberman.com/cms/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/596061408_a25015ed50.jpg" alt="596061408_a25015ed50" title="596061408_a25015ed50" width="500" height="403" class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-183" />I recently received an email from a worker in a creative access country, letting me know that she had unfriended me on facebook because of a burst of sensitive information that I had posted on my facebook profile. Now this sensitive information, was not even close to compromising in a North American ministry sense. It was simply some links to a photo album of a monastery I visited in another country a couple of years back and two imported notes based on blog posts discussing dynamics of the Christian faith from my personal <a href="http://danielcberman.com">blog</a>. <span id="more-180"></span></p>
<p>From the worker&#8217;s perspective though if that kept showing up in her activity timeline, she might have justifiable reason to be concerned as that information was already transmitted to her just by logging in to facebook. The country she works in takes a very dim view of Christian efforts to share the gospel, and has excellent electronic surveillance capabilities.</p>
<p>Thankfully they still look forward to meeting with us once they are stateside, but this should be a useful reminder to church staff as well as members of any congregation who have made overseas contacts in sensitive areas. If you post stuff to the web or other social networks such as facebook beware of your entire friendlist.</p>
<p>Yeah its a crazy world and there is some justifiable <a href="http://danielcberman.com/2009/07/secrecy-in-missions/">discussion</a> which does need to happen regarding missions security, but in the mean time it is not worth getting them in trouble over something you say.</p>
<p>Photo Courtesy of <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/greeneydmantis/">greeneydmantis</a></p>
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